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The Techology Show Notes for 10-13-2010 and #FUEL2010
I won’t be on the Techology Show today because I am in Fishers, IN at Wesleyan HQ for the annual FUEL Youth Pastors Event. On the show today, they are giving away an autographed copy of Dr. H.B. London’s book Refresh, Renew, Revive
I’m at FUEL to network with some great leaders and work with my good friend Matt Rhodes(who sits a few feet away now putting the finishing touches on some images). Chase Your Lion is giving away a ton of free stuff as well. If you’re coming to FUEL don’t forget to register for one of these awesome prizes including an 8 GB iPod Touch!
Also, make sure to sign up for the newsletter so you can be eligible for monthly prizes starting next month! We’re going to be giving away Andy Stanley’s new book “The Grace of God.” Here’s a preview:
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The Grace of God
By Andy Stanley Nobody deserves the sin-free life and glorious future that God offers—but remarkably, it’s ours for the taking. Why? Because of God’s grace! Join Pastor Stanley as he warns against the pitfalls of legalism and explores the transforming power of God’s unmerited favor, lavish love, and kindness. Then come to terms with your own “grace story”! 256 pages, hardcover from Nelson. |
Here are the show notes:
Introduce
Dr. Fred Andrews
Rev. Phil Baily (Undergrad SWU, Master of Ministry SWU)
Rev. Steve Pickel (Undergrad SWU) 20 years in ministry
Resources about Sabbaticals
Pastoral Sabbatical Program
www.cogcmc.org/pdf/sabbatical.pdf
Point Loma Nazarene University’s Center for Pastoral Leadership
Pastoral Sabbatical Leave Bibliography
http://www.pointloma.edu/PastoralLeadership/ChurchRelations/SabbaticalLeaveBibliography.htm
DOWNLOAD OF THE WEEK
MyPublisher
http://www.mypublisher.com/
Stuxnet Worm
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-middle-east-11414483
THEY SAID IT
“Once you’re there … witnessing evil, and you come to the Western world and everyone is celebrating you are back—it can be aggravating.”
Robert Park, the American missionary and activist detained in North Korea for six weeks, after North Korea also released his friend Aijalon Gomes. Park is being hospitalized with post-traumatic stress disorder.
Source: Christianity Today Online
http://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2010/augustweb-only/45-11.0.html
“It’s the age-old double standard, people are more critical of what she did because she’s a girl.”
Nicole Queathem, Senior at Duke University commenting on Karen Owen’s graphic PowerPoint “thesis” about all her sexual conquest while a student at Duke University.
Source: TIME.com
“This is something that allegedly happened two years ago. We don’t want a quick resolution, but the proper resolution.”
Phil Reese, manager for New York Jets game hostess Jenn Sterger who has alleged that Brett Farve sent her racy text messages and lewd photos while he was the quaterback for the Jets.
Source: ESPN.com
http://sports.espn.go.com/nfl/news/story?id=5677989
“As to performance, we’ve nothing to say that we haven’t said about the other WP7 launch devices, it’s blindingly, ridiculously, delightfully quick.”
Vlad Savov, blogger for Engadget commenting on Microsoft’s Windows Phone 7 devices launched October 11, 2010.
Source: Engadget
http://www.engadget.com/2010/10/11/samsung-omnia-7-first-hands-on/
“…the idea that the body is a vehicle for reaching consciousness with the divine. That’s just not Christianity.”
Albert Mohler, Southern Baptist Seminary President who is calling for Christians to avoid Yoga.
Source: The Associated Press
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/39553520/ns/us_news-life
“Pastor Butcher has been an Apostle ‘Paul’ of The Wesleyan Church and the wider evangelical movement who truly lived and believed ‘Nothing is impossible with God.’ His message and life will continue to flourish for generations.”
Dr. JoAnn Lyon, General Superintendent of the Wesleyan Church commenting on the death of Dr. Orval Butcher who founded Skyline Wesleyan Church and was a Pastor to Pastor’s
Source: Communications Department of The Wesleyan Church
http://wesleyan.org/doc/news_article?id=1101&src=news
Couple creates biggest little red wagon ever, turns truck into monster-size childhood toy
http://www.nydailynews.com/lifestyle/2010/10/12/2010-10-12_couple_creates_biggest_little_red_wagon_ever_turns_truck_into_monstersize_childh.html#ixzz12CRNVgk7
Mentoring Ups and Downs
Over the years, I have had the privilege of mentoring and being mentored by many great people in ministry. 10 years of ministry on a college campus kept a steady flow of ministry students involved in our church’s youth ministry. I’ve enjoyed many lunches with some great men and women and watched lots of them be used in amazing ways by God. Mentoring is all about investing your time, energy, and knowledge into someone else. I believe we all need to have a mentor and be mentoring at least one person at every phase in life. You need someone who is more experienced than you pouring into your life while you do the same for someone else.
Mentoring is often difficult. While most appreciate the time others don’t seem to heed any advice that is given. Others fail to even show up and make an effort to be a part of the process that they requested. Here’s my question: at one point do you start investing your time elsewhere and in someone else who will benefit more from the mentoring relationship? Is there a point where, as a mentor, you can say,”This dude doesn’t get it” and gracefully move onto something else? I’m not talking about doing this out of the blue, but after several “warnings” and admonishments about their behavior, attitude, etc. If it’s someone you’ve been promoting for a position then can you say,”hey, I’m not comfortable giving people your name and resume anymore because of the lack of maturity and character I have seen in you.” At some point, it will fall back on you if you’ve given your blessing and recommendation to someone who is not demonstrating the gifts, calling, and character of someone in ministry.
I’m talking mainly about college age students/graduates. Obviously, with younger students and pre-teens, mentoring is a bit different, but just as vital. Author Don Miller started The Mentoring Project several years ago to deal with the crisis of children growing up fatherless in our country. They are a great organization with some cool resources and a mission that we all can believe in.
I would love to know what you think and hear your mentoring stories. Grace and Peace.
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Finding a Mentor, Being a Mentor: Sharing Our Lives as Women of God
Experience the joy of sharing life experiences with your sister in Christ! Whether you’d like to pass on God-given lessons to a younger woman or learn from an older friend, these selections from Otto’s Between Women of God and The Gentle Art of Mentoring will help you nourish relationships that produce abundant spiritual fruit. Paperback. |
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Mentoring: How to Find a Mentor and How to Become One
Whether you’re looking for a mentor to guide you to reach your best or if you want to have a profound influence upon future generations, this book provides comprehensive information for every facet of mentoring. Seven major areas of life-family and marriage, financial, personal growth, physical, professional, social, spiritual-are targeted for steady growth and balance! |
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Mentor Like Jesus
For years, businessman Regi Campbell has been mentoring small groups of young men. It was only recently that he realized his method of mentoring was the same Jesus used. By spending more time with fewer people, Campbell saw a greater impact. Mentor Like Jesus is Campbell’s revelation of what he now calls “Next Generation Mentoring.” In this book you’ll learn how to become a mentor and teacher by walking in the footsteps of One who has had lasting and dramatic impact on our world. |
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51 Creative Ideas for Marriage Mentors: Connecting Couples to Build Better Marriages
Whether you are a veteran marriage mentor or just beginning, the Parrott’s give you dozens of new ideas for enriching what you do with your mentorees. This book is an “idea box” of activities and innovative ways to deepen relationships between mentoring couples. |
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Augustine As Mentor: A Model for Preparing Spiritual Leaders
Augustine as Mentor is a study concerned with mentoring spiritual leaders and pastors who minister to others on a daily basis. St. Augustine had many disciples and fellow colleagues with whom he interacted in the capacity of spiritual advisor. Smither explores Augustine’s model of leadership and brings it into the twenty first century for modern leaders to follow. Paperback. |
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The Mentor Leader
Once a star player in the NFL, Dungy went on to become an award-winning coach. Drawing on his life and career, he shares mentoring secrets to help you become the leader God wants you to be. Discover how to develop key leadership traits, positively influence your team with words and actions, maximize group performance, and more. 256 pages, hardcover from Tyndale. |
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The Making of a Mentor: Nine Essential Characteristics of Influential Christian Leaders
Jesus ministered to many but focused on a few. He knew that by concentrating on this faithful few he would leave behind a legacy of people whose influence would continue to multiply until he returned. This book is written to stimulate you toward the same passionate desire to change people who will then change other people who will then change even more people. It will show you how to live and speak truth into the lives of others in a way that will transform them forever. Seize this opportunity to learn what our Master has to teach us about mentoring! |
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New This Week and What's the difference?
Our youth group is starting a 7 week series tonight called “What’s the difference?” We are going to be looking at various world religions and the differences between them and Christianity(hint: it’s Jesus). The goal is not for them to know more about other religions but to know what and why they believe better. Here are two of the main resources I’m using for this study. Fritz Ridenour’s book has some great stories about the various founders. It’s as informative as a text book, but is a fun read because of the style.
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So What’s the Difference? How World Faiths Compare to Christianity, Revised and Expanded
By Fritz Ridenour In easy-to-understand chapters, the author explains the basic beliefs of Protestantism, Roman Catholicism, Judaism, Islam, Hinduism, Jehovah’s Witnesses, Mormonism, New Age and a dozen other belief systems of the world. It will help you recognize the real differences and make it easier to explain and share your faith with others. Completely revised and updated. |
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Christianity, Cults & Religions: Compare 17 Religions and Cults with Biblical Christianity
Compare the beliefs of 18 world religions and cults at a glance, including Islam, Buddhism, Hinduism, Mormonism, Jehovah’s Witnesses, Christian Science, and more! Learn what each group believes about God, Jesus, salvation, and other basic points of Christianity. Laminated pamphlet measures 5.5″ x 8.5″ and unfolds to 33″—ideal to keep in your Bible or briefcase. From Rose. |
In April and May, we’ll be studying the 10 commandments to continue the process of strengthening their faith foundation. More and more I am finding that many students’ Biblical knowledge is sorely lacking. There are several factors for that but I believe the main culprit is the breakdown of the family unit in our society(more on all that later). The church’s responsibility to make disciples often falls on the local organized body, but I believe that Christ intended for every believer to be and make disciples. I’m not sure when showing up for an hour on Sundays started passing for being a disciple.
Here’s the latest music out this week.
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Beautiful Things CD By Gungor Michael Gungor’s musical creativity and passion for worship are on full display with Beautiful Things, a thirteen-song set of refreshing original compositions. Featuring a guest appearance from Israel Houghton, Gungor breezes through alternative worship styles on tracks like “Dry Bones,” “Please Be My Strength,” “People of God,” and others. |
Gungor also at 
Ohio Avenue at
Vicky Beeching’s new EP at
Saw the preview for this book. Just had a conversation with someone about this very thing.
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Why Is God Ignoring Me?: What To Do When It Feels Like He’s Giving You the Silent Treatment
By Gary R. Habermas * Have you ever cried out to God when you were in trouble and felt like he’d abandoned you? Sharing personal experiences, heartfelt insights, and biblical truth, Habermas asks tough questions, shares wise answers—and reveals where we can find our heavenly Father in the midst of suffering and sorrow. 256 pages, softcover from Tyndale. |
12 Things that have changed in 12 years of Youth Ministry
In 1997….
1. Cell Phones were scarce, weighed 20 pounds, and came in bags.
2. Dial Up internet was still somewhat of a luxury.
3. There was no such thing as an MP3.
4. No one had heard of Columbine or Michael Moore.
5. Checking in at the airport took about 5 minutes.
6. When you talked to your students about cutting it was because they had been skipping class.
7. I only knew a few people who owned an Apple computer and didn’t understand why.
8. I was single and moved into an apartment closer to the church so it wouldn’t be long distance for teens to call me. Now, I live in a town I hadn’t heard of then.
9. I had never heard of Rick Warren or Doug Fields.
10. My IBM computer had 4 MB of Ram and a 12 MB hard drive.
11. It was still okay to play “Chubby Bunny.”
12. Wednesday afternoons were spent making sure we had overhead slides for all our songs.
What did I leave out?
Next, I will be looking at 12 things that haven’t changed. Thanks for reading.